Monday, December 28, 2009
Black Women Unmarried
Here is my opinion after watching this:
(Disclaimer: I date interracially . I don't prefer other races of women, I just have no problem dating outside my race)
I don't really pity these women for several reasons. The first, we cannot help that there are overall fewer Black men than Black women. Unless one starts genetically selecting for more men to be around, women will always miss out on getting married.
Secondly, women are purposefully choosing to marry later; whether it is to pursue a career or other things. That is not a bad thing but when you choose to wait, you just not going to marry as early.
The 3rd reason is that I know these professional women have overlooked brothers because they have "standards". I know if a dude was not making as much, he got looked over most likely. If his job does not seem to have "high career growth", they probably were not going to stick around. I guess that is fine too. But what most corporate Black women fail to realize is that most brothers are not even entering corporate America. They are starting their own businesses or working in the non-profit world. These men may have jobs that are not going to lead to them being the "corporate captains" of America. So as soon as many women feel like a man is not being "man enough" by being the bread winner they check out. Not all women feel like this but I have met quite a few Black women who do.
Like I know these women would not like me. I got too many strikes. I date interracially. I work in the non-profit arena. I do not fit the idea of being a brother on the rise. So they miss out.
Tell me what you think.
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3 comments:
They're missing out if they pass you by. This I know. You're honest, caring, intelligent, have a great sense of humor...and I think you're a very good looking man. Just my two cents...which doesn't buy squat. :)
You know I've seen a gazillion people debate this segment and what it means.
My girl Joi blogged about it @ her site
http://dcfab.thefabempire.com/2009/12/11/a-response-b-is-not-the-new-black/
Two of her commenters had interesting observations Citizen Z said our generation wasn't formed to instinctively think to settle down and raise families.
I agree somewhat with this notion that for many it's about achieving their personal goals for themselves especially professionally before they can share life with someone else, a spouse and then kids.
Miles G. had more about where people seek out members of the opposite sex, and what they seek in them.
Some people would say African-American women and men need to be more willing to compromise on the grocery store lists of what makes the ideal partner. Ideals may just be that, but not what ends up being really in front of us or actually attainable.
I agree that not having high five figures, a namebrand job, or other things might put one off of some people's lists. But if they can't see beyond that who'd want to be with that peroson anyway.
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